The following blog is based on observations over a long period of time. It is not based on any validated research.

Let us assume the person with masculine energy is a man and the person with feminine energy is a woman. In reality, we all have both masculine and feminine energies. I am making this distinction, nevertheless, to be able to share my observations.

“Man” is more in his brain and less in his heart — more thinking, less feeling. The “woman”, on the other hand, works with her heart first; she feels first. This difference has repercussions for how they behave.

Men are more like a train. They have the engine, the rails, and a destination. They push the pedal to the metal and go forward as fast as they can. Feelings are under control or often neglected. Men will drive full speed forward, and if it hurts some people in doing so, so be it — it is the cost of getting to a goal. Women are different. They are driven by the heart, by emotions, and that means they are on a roller coaster — up one day, down the next — which drives the masculine railroad engineer confused and upset. The woman, on the other hand, feels the man is insensitive by rushing ahead to conclusions and ignoring feelings. The man feels women are taking the train off its rails. They cannot be predicted as to what is coming next in their behavior.

Welcome to the prevalent conflicts of marriage: He wants her to join his train as a passenger and let him solve the problem and be done with it. And she wants him to be sensitive, forget the problem, leave the train, be present, join her roller coaster and feel

What to do?

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Respect each other’s differences. Do not try to make your spouse behave like you. That means when a woman is being emotional and changing her mood unpredictably, men should not take it personally regardless of what she says. Often, a man will be accused of whatever, although he was not even around when the problem was born.

Do not join her on the roller coaster and get emotional yourself. . Let her express her emotions; listen to why you are responsible that the sun sets in the west. Listen, but do not react. And, for goodness’ sake, do not try to get her off that roller coaster and criticize her for being emotional. . Your role as a man is to protect her from falling off that roller coaster. Feel your woman, but do not join or deal with the emotions. Listen, shut up, and just be present.  

And the woman should not, get on his train, or worse, take over command of the train and demand that he follow what she believes is the right solution. Support your man, understand him, but do not take over command of his life. 

What is the common denominator for a good marriage?‍

Listen more. Accept each other’s differences, which means love each other although the differences can be disturbing and often painful.

I hope this helps.
It helped me.